Through the gates of FCI Milan

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I reveived these answers from P the day i flew over to see him: 

Your Favorites:

1. Color                        - black, grey, brown
2. Movie                        - boyz in the hood
3. Perfume/Cologne        - Issey Miyaki
4. School Year                - 96, I won so many awards
5. Gift to Receive            - you in a trench coat with nothing on but hills on naked
6. Season                      - summer
7. City                          - las vegas
8. Name for a girl           - faith
9. Website                     - N/A
10. Car                         - benz 600 (new) 71-72 Chevelle (old school)
11. Food                       - shrimp & steak
12. Song                       - joy by black street
13. Book                       - true to the game by teri woods
14. Teacher                   - mr roberts, math teacher
15. Style of Clothing        - suits & gator shoes
16. Flower                     - weed leaf (canibus)
17. Country                   - africa, so far
18. TV Show                  - girlfriends
19. Animal                     - dogs
20. Dessert                   - strawberry shortcake
21. Place to go               - studio (to make music)
22. Beverage                 - moet champagne
23. Poem                      - N/A
24. Snack food               - potato chips
25. Holiday                    - thanksgiving (all the good food)
26. Candy                     - now & laters
27. Name for a boy        - romeil
28. Store                      - al wissams (clothing store)
29. Place to visit             - dog found (veternarian)
30. Salad Dressing          - thousand islans

Growing Up:

31. Where were you born - detroit michigan, usa
32. Where did you live most of your childhood life   - detroit michigan
33. What was your most memorable childhood moment – winning the pal football league championship
34. What was you big childhood fear (i.e. the dark, monsters, etc.) – being broke
35. What did you aspire to be when you were a child - veternarian
36. Is it what you are doing now… What changed – no, i got into to music but still love animals
37. What was your favorite game as a child – hide and seek
38. Where did you go to school – detroit, mi
39. What’s the funniest thing that has ever happened to you -
40. What was your most embarrassing moment – my teacher finding out i had a crush on her
41. What was the single most significant turning point in your life – buying me a house
42. What was your favorite memory of your mother – her graduating from college
43. What was you favorite memory of your father – don’t have any
44. What was your favorite school year and why – 1996, because i won so many awards that year
45. What was your most embarrassing moment as a child – look at # 40
46. What was the hardest thing you had to learn – how to be humble and patient
47. What was your favorite play toy – my basketball
48. Who was your best friend when you were young – curtez harris
49. What was the one toy you always wanted, but never received – a motorcycle/ too young
50. How did you spend your favorite summer vacation – in canada with my best friend curtez at a resort

About You:

51. What animal resembles you most and why – a pit bull, because they are protective and humble
52. If you could have any job in the world, what would it be – hosting live on E! Where they visit places and party
53. If you could go back and change one thing in your past, what would it be
54. If you were granted three wishes, what would you wish for – for you to love me forever, to be financially stable and freedom
55. If you won the lottery, how would you spend the money – depends on the amount
56. What Disney character to you most resemble and why – papa smurf – because many people depend on me
57. What one thing do you want to accomplish most during your life – graduate from college
58. If you could break one habit forever, right now, what would it be – loving so easily because i always end up hurt
59. If you could have one magical power, what would it be and why –to be invinsible so i could really find out what goverment officials are really thinking behind closed doors
60. What three things are you most proud about – my children, graduating from school and meeting you

Personal Beliefs:

61. What religion, if any, do you believe in - islam
62. What things do you feel passionate about – my music and love for my spouse
63. Do you believe in love at first sight - yes
64. What’s the difference between love, romance, and sex – love in uncontollable, romance is on a act of love and sex depends on if you love the person or not, just intercourse
65. Do you believe it is proper for people to express their romantic feelings in public - yes
66. Do you believe in God – yes i believe in all the profits too
67. Do you believe in an afterlife – never thought about it
68. What purpose do you believe organized religion serves – to become one with God
69. Do you believe life exists on other planets - yes
70. What are your views regarding abortion – i don’t like abortions, God chooses 1 seed to bring forth out of hundreds of billions. So that seed is special. So to kill that seed to me is wrong.
71. What do you feel about interracial couples – i love it!
72. How do you feel about same sex marriages or relationships – i don’t have any say so in that it’s their lives
73. What are your views on age gap relationships (more than 10 years apart) – age isn’t nothing but a number

Dreams and Desires:

74. What is your idea of a dream house – high ceilings, 3 car garage 4 bedrooms, work out room, sauna, jacuzzi, big front & back lawn, walk in closets, etc
75. What is your idea of a dream car – the new lamborghini Dialdo or gallado
76. What is your idea of a dream vacation – me  and you relaxing on a beach then making love for 2-4 weeks straight..
77. What would your ideal romantic weekend getaway be – me and you on a cruise seeing different islands
78. What would your ideal birthday celebration be – all my family and friends chilling in barbados
79. What is your life dream – to have a wife and kids who i can trust and love
80. If you had three wishes, what would they be – look at #54
81. What do you want most from life – love and stability
82. If you could create the absolute, perfect job for yourself, what would it be- working for E! Wild on E!
83. What three areas of your life do you want to improve – my relationship with you, my freedom status and my job status
84. What five things do you want to accomplish or do in the next few years –publish my books, start my clothing line, record my music cd, and shoot a movie
85. Where do you want to be in 5 years… 10 years… 20 years – 5 yrs out of jail almost through with #84, 10 yrs married with new children, 20 yrs retired
86. What are your life goals – finish college, start my own company, get married, have more children
87. What are your passions – music and animals (dogs)
88. If you had a million dollars how would you spend it? – i’ll buy 2 80 unit apartment buildings and redo them inside out.

Preferences & Pet Peeves:

89. Do you prefer the cold or hot… Why – hot because i like to show off my abs :=)
90. Are you a morning or night person… Why – night person because i can get more rest
91. What is your biggest pet peeve - liars
92. What if you could be a comic strip character… who would it be – i don’t know
93. Are you a cat-person or dog-person - dog
94. What do you do when you feel sad or depressed – i write music or read
95. What do you do when you feel angry or upset – same as # 94
96. What three words best describe you – honest, loyal, caring
97. Do you save of a rainy day or live life as it comes – both, you have to balance it out
98. Gossip… Turn on or Turn off – turn off
99. Smoking… Turn on or Turn off - neutral
100. Weight problems… Turn on or Turn off - neutral
101. Surprises… Turn on or Turn off – turn on
102. Quiet places… Turn on or Turn off – turn on
103. Loud places… Turn on or Turn off – depends on situation
104. Ambition… Turn on or Turn off – turn on
105. Competition… Turn on or Turn off – turn on
106. Outdoors… Turn on or Turn off – turn on

Battle of the Sexes:

107. A man is a better lover because … - he can fill a lady up :=)
108. A woman is a better lover because… - she knows what she wants and how she wants it
109. A man would make a better world leader because… - he doesn’t deal in feelings
110. A woman would make a better world leader because… - there would be less war & more piece
111. A man’s greatest fear is … - being lonely
112. A woman’s greatest fear is… - being lonely
113. All men like to hear…  - i’m cumming
114. All women like to hear… - i love you
115. The best thing about being a man is … – making a woman happy
116. The best thing about being a woman is… - you tell me

Romantic Inclinations:

117. What is your idea of a perfect date – candle light dinner aline by a beach listening to nice soft music
118. What is you favorite romantic gesture – notes leading up to me meeting you like a treasure hunt
119. What are the top ten gifts you would love to receive – you with a bow on a bed full of rose pedals
120. What is your idea of the perfect romantic gift – see above
121. What is your idea of the perfect romantic vacation – st. Tropez, because i’ve never been there
122. In what three ways is your love most helpful and supportive to you –giving advice, sharing my love, listening
123. What unique thing do you love about this relationship – that it is actually a relationship, or is it
124. What do you consider to be romantic – intimate thoughts
125. What do you love about your partner – N/A but i love your eyes, lips and hair
126. What is your idea of the perfect romantic evening from start to finish – answered alreaday
127. What do you think true love is - answered alreaday
128. Do you believe in soul mates answered alreaday
129. Do you believe in love at first sight - answered alreaday
130. Do you believe fate plays a hand in finding love - yes
131. Do you feel romance is an important part of a relationship… Why –yes because it keeps the spice in a relationship
132. Do you think friends make better lovers – yes because they know eachother well
133. What have you learned about love from other people – to leave if it is one sided
134. Do you think that true love can conquer all - yes

Your Relationship With Each Other:

135. What was the most significant thing about your first kiss with your partner – can’t answer yet
136. When did you know you were in love - can’t answer yet
137. What was the most flattering thing your partner has ever said to you - can’t answer yet
138. What five attributes do you admire most in your love - can’t answer yet
139. What three things can you do to make your relationship even better - can’t answer yet
140. How is your life better since you’ve met your love - can’t answer yet
141. Do you have trouble expressing your feelings towards your partner… if so, when… - can’t answer yet
142. What are you looking forward to most when you see them - can’t answer yet
143. What one thing do you really appreciate that your partner does for you ­ can’t answer yet
144. How do your differences compliment each other ­- can’t answer yet
145. Did you do anything to try and “get” your partner before you were together - can’t answer yet
146. You love it when your partner does… - can’t answer yet
147. You love it when your partner calls you… - can’t answer yet
148. The most romantic thing your partner has ever done was… - can’t answer yet
149. The most memorable moment spent with your partner was… - can’t answer yet
150. What are the three best things about your partner… - can’t answer yet
151. What is the best thing about being with your partner… - can’t answer yet

Life Together:

152. Should couples live together before marriage – yes just to see if they can get along
153. Is honesty always the best policy, even if it hurts - yes
154. Do you believe marriage is forever – as long as you work on it
155. What is the most important part of a relationship - honesty
156. Do you feel comfortable asking your partner for anything – yes, ……can i some lingerie pictures
157. What role should a wife play in a marriage – supporting his life in all of her decisions and loving her unconditionally
158. What role should a husband play in a marriage – same as #157
159. Do you know your partner’s favorite: color, movie, food and drink – i do now :=)
160. If you could change one thing about your relationship with your partner what would it be – nothing, you’re perfect

For Better or Worse:

161. Do you believe in marriage - yes
162. Do you believe you should only marry once - no
163. What do you hope to gain from marriage – stability, a new best friend & memories
164. What do you expect from a marriage partner – honesty, loyalty, respect & sex :=)
165. What do you feel is the purpose of a couple getting married –to show their comminttment to one another
166. How should we agree to handle arguments –talking it out, one at a time
167. If you’re mad about something how will you let me know – tell you right away
168. If you were having problems would you talk it out or keep it inside - talk
169. Do you like sharing your feelings - sometimes
170. What are your views about friends of the opposite sex – i’m not against that. I should be able to trust you
171. How do you feel about ex-lovers being friends – i’m cool with that too because he’s an ex and i’m the present :=) I’m not insecure
172. How important is a girl or guy’s night out – it’s straight but family comes first
173. How would you handle your partner if they developed a problem such as gambling or alcohol –to talking to them to find out the problem
174. What would you do if your partner cheated on you – leave after i let her know how much hurt i felt
175. At what point would you consider divorcing a life mate – when infedelity plays a role

For Love or Money:

176. Who should hold the main financial responsibility in a marriage - both
177. Should a wife stay home with kids – if she want to but i’ll be there after work anyways
178. What are your views about stay-at-home dads – it’s cool it gives him a chance to bond
179. How do you feel about women who make more money than men – it doesn’t matter
180. What are your views towards handling money – save some but have fun
181. Do you feel you should save everything - no
182. Do you feel you should splurge a little - yes
183. How would you rate your ability to handle money - perfect
184. How would you handle a debt problem – pay it off
185. What would you do if your partner became disabled and couldn’t work – take care of her
186. What would you do if your partner faced long-term unemployement – take care of her
187. What would you expect from that partner - love

Love and Children:

188. Do you want children - yes
189. If so, how many – it doesn’t matter
190. Would you want a girl or boy – don’t care
191. Do you enjoy being around children - yes
192. How many children do you think a couple should have – as many as they can provide for
193. Would you raise your kids like your parents raised you – yes (my mother)
194. How would you discipline your children – with honesty and respect – intelligently make them think
195. What do you think the role of a mother is – love and support
196. What do you think the role of a father is – love and support
197. Who do you expect would be the primary care giver for your children – love and presence of parents
198. Do you think couples should argue in front of their kids - no
199. Do you feel couple should have displays of affection in front of their kids – yes it shows love
200. How would you explain sex to your kids – straight forward
201. What would your dating policy be towards your kids - open
202. How would you handle your children if they were involved in an interracial, same sex or age gap relationship – the same as race  etc
203. How would you explain about drug and alcohol – through information and videos
204. What are your views on the educational system – it’s bad here, needs improving
205. How would you want your children educated… Public… Private… Home or other – public with private teaching

Love and Sex:

206. Do you feel sex is an important part of staying happy in a relationship – can’t answer
207. What area of your sexual relationship would you like to improve – can’t answer
208. If you could try just one thing with your partner what would it be – xxxx (will remain a secret between me and P) I’ve never done that before
209. Do you feel 100% comfortable about yourself sexually with your partner? Why or why not? - yes
210. How important is a partner’s sexual past to you – doesn’t matter
211. Do you feel like you know everything about your partner’s sensual desires - no
212. What is the difference between having sex and making love – sex is no feeling, love is feelings involved
213. Do you think sexual variety is important to a lasting relationship - yes
214. What is your favorite form of foreplay – i’ll let you know on feb 28th
215. What is your favorite way to kiss – grabbing your ass and pulling you to me
216. What is your favorite sexual position – doggy style or you riding me
217. What is your favorite way to be touched – you rubbing my stomach
218. What is your favorite way to touch your partner – i like to grab my partner by her pussy and pull her to me
219. What is your most secret sexual fantasy – i’ll tell you in person
220. What is your favorite place to make love – on a beach with black sand or in a airplane
221. What is your favorite music to make love by – ”rikelly” any of them cd’s
222. What is your favorite time of day to make love - anytime
223. What is your favorite after sex activity - cuddling
224. Who do you think should be more dominant in a sexual relationship, the male or the female - both
225. What is the most sexually attractive feature about your partner – your eyes and your lips
226. If you could improve one thing about your sexual relationship what would it ben – starting one

More Favorite:

227. Band                                       - jagged edge
228. Style of music                          - r&b
229. Comedian                                - mike epps
230. Love song                                - secret gardens by el deborge etc
231. Cereal                                     - fruity pebbles
232. Sports team                             - detroit pistons
233. Disney character                       - droopey
234. Board game                             - monopoly
235. Word                                      - N/A
236. Mythical creature                       - dinosaurs
237. Magazine                                 - show
238. Scent                                      - issey miyaki
239. Month                                     - april
240. Pick-up line                              - i was wondering if i could join you for a drink?
241. Comic strip                               - bogndocks
242. Scenic place                             - disney world
243. Fast food                                 - burger king
244. Quote                                      - excuses are the key for imcompotence
245. Saying                                     - boss up and get the money
246. Place to kiss                             - the nape of your neck or your inner thighs
247. Sport                                      - football
248. Body part                                - stomach
249. Theme park                             - cedar pointe
250. Author                                     - teri woods
251. Director                                   - ice cube
252. Actor                                      - mike epps
253. Movie Genre                             - action / comic
254. Video Game                             - playstation 3
255. Work of Art                              - the tiger stadium
256. Constellation                             - big dipper

More about You:

257. What do you feel is your best personality trait – my caring and sharing
258. What do you feel is your worst character flaw –walking away from someone who is talking
259. Do you regret anything you’ve done in the past - no
260. Are there any opportunities you wish you hadn’t passed on – yes, i wish i would’ve spent more time with my grandfather
261. If you could write a book based on your life, what would the title of it be – one minute you’re up, next minute your down
262. If you were to spend an entire day alone what would you do – relax and gather my thoughts
263. What is the worst job experience you’ve ever had – working – at a waste factory. Big big rats  :=(
264. What is the best job experience you’ve ever had – running our hair salon
265. What things irritate you - liars
266. If you could change one thing about the world we live in, what would it be – the hatred
267. Would you rather own your own company or work for someone else – own my company
268. How important is your career to you - very
269. If you had to choose a different career what would it be - modeling
270. What do you like to do to cheer yourself up if you are feeling depressed about something – write music or talk to my mom
271. Do you feel your life has gone the way you wanted it to – somewhat but not all the way
272. Overall, how would you rate your achievements in life  ­- good, i still have to accomplish alot more
273. How do you feel about speaking in public - comfortable
274. What is your worst fear –being broke
275. If you could change the way our government was run or handled, what would you change about it – the people inside it
276. How do you feel about our current political leaders – i don’t care for them
277. Do you feel the end justifies the means - no
278. What was the worst nightmare you’ve ever had – watching my friend die in a horrible way
279. What was the best dream you’ve ever had – the one about me and you having our first child
280. What was the scariest moment you’ve ever experienced – coming to jail
281. How do you feel your relationship is with your family - great
282. Do you agree with the way your parents raised you… why or why not… - yes because sh taught me morals and respect
283. If you could have been born in any country, where would it have been - usa
284. What is the best way for you to relieve stress – through sex :=)
285. Would you consider yourself a country or city person - city
286. What astrological sign are you… Do you feel it resembles your actual personality – taurus, yes humble but fiesty
287. What do you feel is the most annoying habit you have – i don’t know
288. Do you feel you are good with people - yes
289. Are you naturally extroverted or introverted - introverted
290. Do you feel you tend too judge people to quickly - no
291. Would you rather have many friends or just a small group of close friends –many close friends
292. What is your favorite way to celebrate holidays – with family and friends
293. How would you rate your desire to keep things tidy – cood as long as it’s clean
294. What has been the most influential experience in your life – seeing my friends go pro in sports
295. Who has been the most influential person in your life – my mother
296. What is the one life lesson that you have learned that you wish everyone else knew as well – the honesty loyalty and respect goes a long way
297. If you could eliminate one negative aspect from the world, what would it be - guns
298. If you could incorporate one positive aspect into the world, what would it be – self awareness
299. If you could change you name, what would you change it too - romeil
300. How has answering these questions helped to improve our relationship – alot, hope you have learned alot about me
Love you baby,
P

Well I am not alone and the US is the country in the whole world that has so people locked up. Here are some “wifer-friends” that share the same adress as my hubby:

Date of Birth: July 20, 1961

Age: 46

What is your relationship to the Prison System?: Wife

How did you find out about Prison Talk Online? (Be: seaching the internet for help on prisons

Prison in which your loved one is incarcerated: Waseca, Minnesota

Length of time your loved one has been inside: 8-25-05

Time remaining on sentence: 10 YEARS 9 MONTHS

Biography: Mother of 3 kids, 3 step-children and 6 grandchildren

Location (At least the State & Country): lansing, michigan

Interests: walking,crafts,computer & my grandchildren

Occupation: Reconcilation Clerk   What is your relationship to the Prison System?: close friend in system How did you find out about Prison Talk Online? (Be: from friend in system Location (At least the State & Country): CA, USA

and there’s me….

02-21-2008, 04:22 PM

Isweoriswenot Kool Aid Strength!   Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: South Carolina, USA Posts: 362

Why Can’t I Get Conjugal Visits?! I just hate that I have to wait so long on being able to be intimate with my man. They don’t let you hold hands at the table, just a brief hug and kiss and that’s it.  Then you have some states who allow couples to have VISITS like that and it just makes you wonder how come EVERY state doesn’t allow them? Why is it? Do they feel like it is isn’t a good incentive for rewarding good behavior to an inmate? I don’t know maybe someone could shed some light on this? Maybe I just feel like this. __________________ WAKE ME UP AND TELL ME THIS IS A DREAM.

 Well gotta say that I would pay ALOT to be able to have a visit like that …..

My visiting form had to be sent to DC. There were alot of questions and I had no idea if I would even get “accepted”. I was no American citizen but wanted so much to see P in prison, and the list was my only ticket in.

I filled it out, sent it off the day later, told P in the next letter to hin that I had sent if off and it was only for us to wait and see if I would be on his list or not.

In FCI Milan (which is a low security prison) an inmate is allowed to have:

- 25 visitors on his list

- 1 phonenumber can be added to his list a month

(both above has to accepted, before I can visit or before he is able to call me)

http://prisontalk.com/forums/member.php?u=139515

Hey, you can’t blame a girl from trying ha? But If you wanna spend time with your hubby you better follow the rules - or your visit WILL BE TERMINATED.

Some different stuff you might not wanna forget:

Many things that we may do and think them innocent, or not harmful, at the time may come back to “bite” you or your loved one in prison. Many times these actions will result in visits being terminated and/or cancelled for long periods of time.

Here’s the bottom line on visitation and the rules that surround it. When you break the rules in the visitation yard or room, you are not only risking your own visits and taking a chance on making things harder for you when it comes to visiting, but you are also potentially making things harder on everyone else who goes to visit at that prison.

Case in point – there’s been some recent discussion about inmates making holes in their pockets before going into the visitation area. Thanks to someone at the prison where I visit doing the same thing, and getting caught, I now have to wait an extra minute or two for my loved one to come out to see me at visitation, because now they check ALL the inmates’ pockets before they go out to the visiting yard.

We all are expected to abide by the same set of rules at whatever prison we visit. Those that break the rules and get caught wind up making it harder for everyone who visits that prison. The bottom line is it doesn’t really matter which prison you visit – just because you may not visit the same prison I do, if you’re violating the rules where you go, then you’re making it harder for someone who visits there… and that someone may be yourself, as well as others.

http://prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=18933

Everyday since the day I received your first letter, I wrote you a letter… sometimes only 3 pages long.. and sometimes 20 pages long..

Wanted to remind you as much as possible of how I felt for you

“I received your letter today and was very pleased to hear from you. I must say that I was somewhat surprised though. But your letter did make my day. I’m glad that you decided to write me. Now we can began our learning sessions about one another to see if we will be willing to furhter this relationship..”

“.. I am currently single  right now but I know that with the grace of God, I’ll find me a good woman. Hopefully this is a sign …”

“Oh, and I can read your handwriting! I actually think that you have some pretty handwriting. And I wish you were allowed to come and teach us a class or two, that would be great plus that would be an extra visit for me to see you .. ”

“I want to thank you for the compliment that you gave me on my looks and qualities. It takes a person to possess both to be able to to identify both. So you can say that you now have a new friend with a open status of taking this relationship whereveryou wish to take it..”

“I understand what you mean when you say people try to take your kindness for advantage. Li-Li, I give you my word, that is not what I am trying to do, so don’t change being a sweet person because of a few incidents, that just wouldn’t be fair…”

“I too wish that I was there sitting at your table infront of you now. And with Gods will, we will get the chance to do everything that we want to do together. So if it’s up to me, we will make it happen. I am getting closer to freedom day by day. I am putting out a visitors form in with this letter so that you will be able to come and see me when you come to Detroit..”

“I am looking at your pictures and you are very beautiful. I love your long hair and your pretty eyes, and your body! WOW! I am going to put your phonenumber on my list but I don’t want to call collect so when I get some extra change I will definitely give you a call, ok?”

“Well since Valentine’s Day is just around the corner…. will you be my Valentine ? And Li-Li, don’t you feel stupid about not writing any lyrics for me, that is my station, you just paint and BodyPump and be pretty, ok?..”

“Reading your life is very intereting. You are one amazing person. I don’t think that I’ve ever met a more caring individual in my life besides my mother. Other than that, you are the one. ”

“… but anyways hope to hear from you soon. Take care, P ”

……..no wonder I fell in love with this person…. / Li-Li

On January 22nd I received your first letter. It was 6 pages about you, what you were like, like to do, your past and your dreams. I just fell totally in love with they way you used your words and how you made me feel special in so many ways. I remember grabbing a pen and some paper to write you back.

I knew that it would take about 6-7 days for you to receive that letter but was hoping you would wait another few extra days for me to be able to respond to it.

I took you picture from the internet, downloaded it to my cell phone and thats when you actually got to “follow” me everywhere I went.

I did feel a little stupid but thought “what the hell, what have I got to loose?”